Trying to figure out if I’m the target of a Long Con…

I want to avoid making your eyes roll too much so let me get all of the obvious red flags and BS out of the way, but just wait until the end before telling me how stupid I’m being because the story is a little interesting, if not unique. Have been living in Korea for 6 years, met my ex wife on day two of arriving and we had the most tumultuous relationship in existence built on the back of mind shatteringly good sex. It blew up finally in May, and I took off for Thailand to make sure I would be able to get through the divorce because my God how I loved my ex wife. I went in knowing my emotions would be toyed with and buttons to get my money would be pushed. I met a girl on Thai Friendly, that sacred place, and met a pretty freelancer with a serious lack of confidence in herself. I mean she will not take pictures of her face and hides behind cat sparkly filters with only one real picture on her profile. But she was pretty and hilarious and was keeping my mind off my imploded marriage so I was ok with spending money and acting like she was telling me the truth knowing full well she wasn’t. She was real honest with me on like day 3, she tells me the age doesn’t bother her much (I’m 44, she’s 22) and she says I have a nice face but I’m overweight and she can’t fake attraction to me when that’s the case. We talk all night and she tells me that I’d be much better off with a girl from Bangla road who is into it just for money. And I tell her straight, I’m not looking for anything but a distraction. This is my first time being with a freelancer, I’m sure I could sleep with a new girl every night but then I would go home feeling like shit and more sad that my wife and I were no longer together. I needed the emotional part of it more than sex part of it. I needed to believe the lie and it was worth it to me in order to go home and not be devastated like I was. I put a bunch of money down and say, stay, don’t go, just take the money which isn’t worth as much as keeping what I’ve already invested my time and money on. She says no and places the money back in my hand and leaves. No maybe it’s a trick for me to chase her, but I am beast and not bluffing and not taking shit. I block her everywhere a minute after she leaves. She shouldn’t be able to find me again. Next day, she finds me and begs me to unblock her and tells me she’s made a horrible mistake and she realizes that I’ve actually been truthful and sincere with her and most guys aren’t and she herself has to wear a disguise when she’s with them. She tells me about men she’s taken advantage of, getting hundreds of thousands of baht from them, she tells me about all these young handsome men she’s dated and how sometimes they’d get into fights so bad that they drew blood from one another. She tells me it’s all a big letdown and she hates it all. So I’m thinking, this is all part of the scam on me and I’m the target. So I tell her, if she comes back I’ll consider dating her under one condition, I don’t give her anymore money. She agrees and comes back and we spend the rest of our time together having a good time and talking about our pasts. She tells me she likes me but that I need to lose weight and she would like me a lot more. I feel like that’s fair. She also tells me she’s willing to keep seeing me, but that she wants to stop working as a freelancer. I recognize the long con and say sure sure whatever, knowing full well I’m going home with a more distracted mind than before and can finally feel a bit better about my divorce. So I say goodbye and head home and tell her outright when I arrive that I’m not going to be that guy who takes care of her from over seas and let her know it’s over. Subsequently, my ex wife plays a fast one on me and my visa here is terminated leaving me no choice but to leave before the expiration and no option to renew. So I can’t keep working and must return to the states. But I’m fine. Meanwhile Ms. Thai is sending me message after message to please not to abandon her. I pick up and ask her, are you going to keep freelancing? She answers, no, she’s going to get a regular job. I tell her I have no money for her, I’m going home to the states and just lost my job. She says, please just be her normal boyfriend, not a sugar daddy or anything like that. She will quit freelancing, ask me for no money and spend all her time trying to show me she’s worthy of me. She answers every text all throughout the day and into the night, calls me, sends me funny TikToks and bought a shirt for me. She’s looking for a normal job that pays her at least 30,000 baht, I’ve tried helping her, but man neither of us know where to look. And again, she asks me for no money. It’s been about a month of this now, with her going into her savings so as not to work. I could say, or so she says, but she texts and calls me all day long and until 9am every day, I don’t have a job now because of what my ex did so I just spend all my time talking to her and getting ready to go home. She says she can’t sleep at night because of the schedule she was on before, and so we supposedly both fall asleep around 11am and start the schedule all over again around 4-5pm. So I’m “with” her throughout the night. Do I think she’s lying or whatever? Can I be honest? I honestly don’t care. It’s been the best distraction ever from the complete heartbreak of my divorce and I’m grateful if for only that. It’s not costing me anything except what I originally gave her back in Phuket when I went there to party. I’m exercising every day and she keeps tabs on my progress. So finally losing weight again. If she turns out to be a liar I have so little invested emotionally because I’m still so traumatized about my last relationship. So it’s like, if she suddenly says “oh my sick buffalo…” I’ll just be like “see ya!” Without hesitation. No qualms. I told her what another freelancer said to me “sick aunt, need money,” and she said, “Thai women are ridiculous.” I test her right after, “you need any money?” To see if she would be like “give me a lot right now!” But replies instead, “don’t need.” She says she just wants to find a normal job before her savings run out. So now you have mostly the entire story, and I’m honestly not heartbroken about it if you fine people tell me it’s still a scam, run! But she’s quite nice, is very pretty, and is younger than me by half. So I’m a bit reluctant to say “quits” when I head home in a few weeks. I’ve got plans to spend a week with her one more time before I head stateside next week. Will watch her with care and if it’s all a farce then cool no problems. I even told her, I don’t have money for shopping when I’m there and I won’t be paying for sex. I’ll take her out to eat and that kind of stuff, but if I see her use me I’m out. She says to me of course. Not to worry she won’t ask a dime. Just to please pay for our meals and don’t treat her poorly while there. I don’t really know what to make of it, maybe it’s a long con which is fine by me because it will not pay off in the end. But wanted to ask everyone’s opinions here cuz it has me a bit perplexed. Am I stupid for thinking she’s not fitting into some of the stereotypes I’ve read about non stop for the last few months? Also, just a quick disclosure; I have zero problems with the fact that she is/was a freelancer. I’m past all the jealousy bullshit from my youth. And my ex beat the rest of my passion out of me. And I got screwed over for money by my ex worse than anything this young woman can do to me. I’m good, if she’s legit, I have no problems giving her some time for us to figure it out. And if not, really totally fine. All of this has been more therapeutic than damaging so I’m 100% better than what I was a few months ago and that alone is worth the money I did pay in the beginning (like 20k or so baht). I thought I’d see what the pros had to offer for advice on this, without any worries of hurting my feelings. I’m fine either way this goes. Thank